Finding True North

Are you looking for True North during these times of unprecedented change? Is your inner landscape searching for solid ground? With so much change in my inner and outer worlds, I’m surviving by taking time to listen to my heart and from that place walking with integrity to the best of my ability. My friend and colleague, Mary Mackenzie, and I will be exploring how to find strength and courage in a turbulent world Sept 8-10, 2017, in a lovely CA retreat center. Join us to discover what matters most to you and how your next steps can help you get there. More information: http://nvctraining.com/media/_2017/KM-MM/LT/index.retreat.html

 

Life=Change

Is life asking you to change the story of who you are? Are you asking what’s possible? Are you yearning for sanctuary to find meaning in the changes within and around you? Mary Mackenzie and I are hosting “Life Transitions: Rediscovering the Spark Within” from Sept 15-20, 2016 in Seabeck, WA. This retreat will offer understanding of the cycle of transitions and practice developing strong skills to move through transitions with courage, strength and grace. Join us! There are a few more spots left.

To learn more about the retreat and facilities: click here

To register:

http://nvctraining.com/registration/signup/meeting-life

 

 

Guest Blog by Aimee Ryan- Life Transitions

Open letter to anyone who ever has, is, or may some day go through a transition in life (that’s right human race, I’m talking to you),

 

I come to you with a special opportunity to join Kathleen Macferran and Mary Mackenzie for a 6-day experiential workshop – Life Transitions: Rediscovering the Spark Within.

 

Why is this a special opportunity?  So many reasons, but here are some of the highlights:

 

  • As the philosopher Heraclitus noted, “the only constant in life is change.”  That means that if we’re going to flow through life with even a modicum of grace and ease, we need to be able to find self-connection and groundedness in the midst of the turmoil. This retreat is aimed at supporting you on that journey and giving you the skills and tools to find your spark and that place of inner peace, regardless of outer circumstance.

 

  • Mary and Kathleen are two of the most heart-connected, authentic individuals I’ve yet to meet and I can’t stress enough what a life-changing delight it is to spend with them. What’s even better is how they balance each other, each bringing something unique, and how their different styles complement this work so beautifully.
  • Kathleen and Mary have been offering weekend workshops on this theme for the past couple years and because they’ve been getting such rave reviews, they’ve decided to go big and do a longer, more intensive workshop. I brought Mary and Kathleen to Missoula, MT for a weekend workshop on this theme last May, and participants loved it.  The people who came represented a huge range of life transitions – some working through career changes, others focusing on intimate relationships, or life purpose, or healing from physical/mental/emotional dis-ease – and each one left with a deeper sense of themselves and their process.

Here’s a little more…

 

This retreat applies Nonviolent Communication (NVC) principles and processes to understanding and working through transitions (big or small). Mary and Kathleen have found this workshop works well for those with no NVC experience as well as those who have an integrated NVC practice.

 

I hope this was enough to get you excited about joining us. If it turns out you can’t make it (you’ll be missed!), it’d be such a gift if you’d be willing to pass this info on to others who you think might enjoy attending.  

 

Here’s a little summary of the details (click here for a flyer):

 

 

 

  • Dates:  September 15th – 20th
  • Location: Seabeck Conference Center, just outside of Seattle on Hood Canal (we’ll be staying in the Spruce building)
  • Price: (until 6/1): $925 (single occupancy) / $800 (double occupancy).  This includes tuition, lodging, and all meals…such a sweet deal!
  • Bonus: 25 CEUs available thru CNVC for LSW, MFT, and RN

 

If you have questions about the details above, or if you’d like to chat about if and how this retreat could support you, please feel free to contact me at aimee@explorecoreconnections.com.

 

Much love,

Aimee

(retreat organizer and Kathleen/Mary super-fan)

 

Guest Blog by Chiara Guerrieri- NVC and Yoga

Naming the Feelings in the Body…About Mom

Hello! I had a great realization recently of how my practice of yoga combined with skills from NonViolent Communication help me navigate through some complicated feelings I experience every May.

…It’s not just Mother’s Day this time of May; it’s also my mom’s birthday, and this year she’s turning 82. My mom to me is like the towering, gorgeous Empress tree in my front yard. I named the tree after her, Fosca, and it is in bloom every year at the time of her birthday: big, bright, far-reaching, beautiful, and messy with blossoms.

As I am appreciating the blooms on the tree, this thought crosses my head: “It sucks that my mom is not here to enjoy this with me.”If I just leave the statement as is, I’m pretty much stuck inside of my head. What are my options? Here’s where NVC comes in; I’m going to start by naming the feelings in my body.

First, I notice the contraction in my body, and I pause. I take a breath and I say to myself, “That’s an evaluation.” …READ MORE

There is so much we can do to make it easier to connect with what we’re feeling, respond with clarity and honesty, whether it’s within ourselves or with our dear ones. Come join me on this journey!

Warmly,
Chiara

AUGUST 22-28
The Communication of Yoga: Montana Retreat at Feathered Pipe RanchExplore compassion on & off the mat with the practices of Yoga & NonViolent Communication, at the stunning Feathered Pipe Ranch. If you value inner freedom and seeing choice in your interactions with others, you’ll thrive at this week long retreat in rolling hills and sacred beauty of Montana.

IMPORTANT NOTE! We need 4 more people to make this a reality. For those of you waiting to decide, the time has come! This is an amazing opportunity to luxuriate under the big skies of Montana and steep in the sweet connection of yoga with Non-Violent Communication. 
Register by May 15 or contact me as soon as you can.

Fri May 22 | Aditi Wallingford | 12:30-4:30 pm
The Communication of Yoga: Compassion On & Off the Mat

Yoga & Nonviolent Communication series in which you can discover ways to act more in alignment with your self, so you can move in alignment with others. Also on June 12 at 8Limbs.

JULY 27 – AUG 2
Breitenbush Yoga Immersion Retreat
Deepen your personal yoga practice or improve your yoga teaching. Relax under old growth trees or lounge in hot springs in this gorgeously inspiring setting.

Why Bother doing a TEDx Talk?

Kathleen speaking at TEDxRainierHere is Kathleen’s 2nd TEDx talk, The Power of Listening, as a part of the larger Livestream video of the entire event plus other TED video content. Her introduction begins at 1:12:46 and she begins speaking at 1:13:20. We will post the solo talk video when it becomes available.  Scott Karman was a part of the production team. Below is Scott’s post about why we do this in the first place, reposted with his permission. TEDx is an unpaid experience for the presenters.

 

Reflections on TEDxRainier
By Scott Karman

Along the way, in the eleven months of planning for TEDxRainier 2014, I experienced a particularly special moment during one of the speaker rehearsals. Kathleen Macfarren, a speaker with an elegant talk on deep listening, paused for a moment to ask us, “Why do you do this?” I chuckled as it was the very question that I had asked myself on my drive to the rehearsal. One by one, we all gave our answers. Bo Roth who was responsible for helping the speakers develop their talks said, “It’s all about the people.” Anna Boynton, a masterful speaker coach, said, “It’s all about the people.” Co-curators Phil Klein and Elizabeth Coppinger agreed. We all agreed. TEDxRainier is a unique labor of love where we get to meet, work with, and connect with amazing people doing amazing things. As a team, we have the pleasure of growing friendships through collaboration. There is a lot of laughter, some tears, and of course, some heated moments–all parts of creating something larger than ourselves.

Then, I think about the many teams that come together to make the event happen. The people that live behind the curtains of the stage that you will never see. “Why do we do this?” TEDxRainier is an opportunity for us to do our very best work without the constraints of timelines and budgets. It is a show where we get to decide what happens and how it is going to be accomplished. Kris Monro, of Milligan Events, was the glue that kept us all on track while providing her expertise on the attendee experience. The Tri-Digital team brought the live stream program to those who watched virtually. The camera work on the big screen or your screen at home was skillfully orchestrated by the Dapper crew. The presentations were the collective creations between the speakers and our Silver Fox designers. The entire auditorium experience was the result of the collaboration of all of these teams, including the amazing McCaw Hall staff. So why do we do it? This is what we love to do and we love putting on shows for our dear attendees.

And finally, during a particularly stressful event planning moment, I had posed the question to myself. “Why do I do this?” The answer came as a surprise to me.

It comes down to lifetime goals and dreams. You see, in college, my parents were not pleased with my decision to major in painting. One night, on the WSU campus, my mother asked me with concern, “What do you want to do with your life?” In my youthful and passionate naïveté, I responded that I either wanted to be an artist or the President of the United States. Well, as I grew up a bit, that evolved into wanting to be a teacher who leads and lets the creative process guide the way. Both ideas are applicable to anywhere my inspirations take me. And there I was, Saturday morning pacing my house at 3 AM, waiting for McCaw Hall to open so we could get the show started. I asked, “Why do I do this (to myself)?” A burst of adrenalin came over me and a huge smile stretched across my face. The answer is that I am doing exactly what I set out to do. This whole thing is a realization of lifetime goals and dreams.

 

Subject: Want to learn more about NVC? Here’s a great resource!

 

 

Dear friend,

 

I want to “toot a horn” for my dear friends at the NVC Academywho are in the process of updating and streamlining their online NVC Multimedia Library. I’m thrilled with the direction it’s heading in… And what a marvelous resource tool it is for any of us who’re studying Nonviolent Communication!

 

What makes it so useful? Lots of things! Here’s what appeals to me:

  • Contains the history of Nonviolent Communication, as founded by Marshall Rosenberg
  • Holds seminal works by most of our veteran NVC trainers, as well as the work of generations of trainers who’ve come afterwards
  • Resources from today’s NVC trainers are added regularly
  • Comprehensive NVC study guide you can delve into at your own speed
  • Enjoyable Staff Pick of the Month (I hear one of Miki Kashtan’s courses on Dialogue is being featured in 2015!)

 

Best of all for MY busy life, it’s open 24 hours a day and at my fingertips whenever I want it – and I don’t have go anywhere. If I want to start my day sitting in the morning sunshine with a cup of tea and Jim and Jori Manske, I can do that.

 

How sweet is that!

 

And yes, you’ll find a dozen or so of my courses in the Library, too, such as “Integrating NVC,” and “Stoking the Fires of Joy.” Just click here to see my collection!

 

You’ll also see works there by other trainers, who’s names I think you’ll find familiar. Trainers like sweet Robert Gonzales… John Kinyon… Arnina Kashtan… the endearing Kelly Bryson… Jeff Brown… of course the Manskes – and many more.

 

By the way, there’s aspecialpromotion this month for new Library members! If you decide to become a new member, be sure and use my promo code: MML75. Then when you join, you’ll receive $75 off any purchase at the Academy’s Marketplace, where you’ll find lots of other valuable NVC materials and resources.

 

I hope you’ll join…

 

Having a well-stocked library that’s readily available makes studying NVC such a pleasure. I don’t think there’s another resource quite like it anywhere else in the world.

 

Warmly,

 

Kathleen Macferran

CNVC Certified Trainer

Deepening Friendship

“Friend, our closeness is this: that wherever you put your foot, feel me in the firmness under you.”- Rumi

 I read this and feel it in my body- toes spread out, sinking into the earth, resting in the solid sense of grounding. I’d love all my relationships to feel this way and I’d love all my friends to experience enough trust in me that they, too, have a visceral sense of being held. As I enjoy the relaxation in with my body, my mind starts to ask, “How do we get there? What behaviors and choices contribute to that firm foundation in my relationships?”

 So many moments flood my mind……….lazer-focused looks that hold me with rapt attention and presence, texts that let me know I’m being thought of, inquiries into small details of my day, agreements to support each other with as much care and vulnerability as is possible in any moment, and a willingness to face any tension that arises in the space between us because we both value the uniqueness and preciousness of our friendship. Beyond a quality of presence that is dynamic and alive, there’s a willingness to share openly about feelings and the things that we most care about.

 There’s another factor, too.  An agreement I have with myself to show up in every relationship with all my humanity, to practice self-connection to my essential nature, and to no longer withhold the expression of that essential nature. I’m tasting time and time again the thrill of showing up awake and alive even when it is uncomfortable.

 Friends, do you have any idea what a gift it is to me to have you as a firm foundation to walk upon?

Living Deeply in Connection

NVC is a practical, learnable process for communicating with empathy, honesty, power and compassion. It integrates personal development with social change. The purpose of NVC is to ensure everyone’s needs are valued equally and fulfilled in ways that contribute to connection, harmony and peace. It develops people’s ability to listen to and transform blame, anger and criticism into respectful, constructive communication, and to resolve conflicts peacefully.

 

Kathleen Macferran, Certified Trainer
Strength of Connection Center for Nonviolent Communication
Office: 472 Grow Ave NW | Bainbridge Island, WA 98110
206.780.1021. Tel / Fax
Mail: PO Box 10009 | Bainbridge Island, WA 98110-0009