Suggested Readings

NVC Materials

  • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg. (Book, comprehensive presentation of NVC basics)
  • Nonviolent Communication Workbook for Individual and Group Practice by Lucy Leu (Workbook for 12-week curriculum to accompany Marshall’s book, above)
  • Practical Spirituality, Rosenberg, Marshall
  • Connecting Across Differences, 2nd Ed., Killian, Dian and Connor, Jane
  • The Empathy Factor, Marie Miyashiro
  • Peaceful Living, Mackenzie, Mary
  • The No-Fault Classroom, Hart, Sura and Kindle Hodson, Victoria
  • Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids, Hart, Sura and Kindle Hodson, Victoria
  • Words That Work in Business, Lasater, Ike
  •  Humanizing Health Care, Sears, Mel
  • Parenting from Your Heart, Kashtan, Inbal
  • Eat By Choice, Not By Habit, Haskvitz, Sylvia
  • Graduating From Guilt, Eckert, Holly

 

Other Books

  • Anderson, Carolyn and Roske, Katharine, The Co-Creator’s Handbook
  • Ardagh, Arjuna, The Translucent Revolution
  • Eisler, Riane, The Chalice and the Blade
  • Kohn, Alfie, Punished by Rewards: the Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and other Bribes, 1993
    “Drawing from hundreds of studies, Kohn demonstrates that people actually do inferior work when they are enticed with money, grades, or other incentives. The more we use artificial inducements to motivate people, the more they lose interest in what we’re bribing them to do. Rewards and punishments are two sides of the same coin — and the coin doesn’t buy much. What is needed, Kohn explains, is an alternative to both ways of controlling people. Seasoned with humor and familiar examples, Punished by Rewards presents an argument that is unsettling to hear but impossible to dismiss.” (quoted from back cover)
  • Kornfield, Jack, A Path with Heart: a Guide through the Perils and Promises of Spiritual Life, 1993
    Meditation teacher and psychologist Jack Kornfield writes about inner transformation, meditation, and the integration of spiritual practice in contemporary Western life. “From compassion, addiction, and psychological and emotional healing, to dealing with problems involving relationships and sexuality, to the creation of a Zen-like simplicity and balance in all facets of life, it speaks to the concern of many modern spiritual seekers, both those beginning on the path and those with years of experience. Reading this book will touch your heart and remind you of the promises inherent in meditation and in a life of the spirit: the blossoming of inner peace, wholeness, and understanding, and the achievement of a happiness that is not dependent on external conditions.” (quoted from back cover)
  • Lerner, Michael, Spirit Matters
  • Muller, Wayne, Sabbath: Restoring the Sacred Rhythm of Rest, 1999
    “Our relentless emphasis on success and productivity has become a form of violence, Muller says. We have lost the necessary rhythm of life, the balance between effort and rest, doing and not doing. Constantly striving, we feel exhausted and deprived in the midst of great abundance, longing for time with friends and family, longing for a moment to ourselves.” (quoted from inside cover) “This is a book that may save your life. In a culture where few question that more is better, Sabbath offers a surprising direction for healing to anyone who has ever glimpsed emptiness at the heart of a busy and productive life.” — Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.
  • Ram Dass and Bush, Mirabai, Compassion in Action: Setting out on the Path of Service, 1992
    “…Ram Dass reflects on the lessons of his own life and addresses two vital questions: ‘What in us responds to the needs of others?’ ‘What can we actually do to alleviate suffering?’ What we have to give is who we are. We need to grow in awareness and insight if we wish to become more effective instruments for change. In this book of heartfelt encouragement and advice, Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush demonstrate the interdependence of social and spiritual development, reawakening in us the memory of true citizenship – a vital force in the conscious relief of pain and suffering. As His Holiness, the Dalai Lama, has said, ‘Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.'” (quoted from back cover)
  • Remen, Rachel Naomi, My Grandfather’s Blessings: Stories of Strength, Refuge, and Belonging, 2000
    “…Remen, a cancer physician and master storyteller, uses her luminous stories to remind us of the power of our kindness and the joy of being alive. Dr. Remen’s grandfather, an Orthodox rabbi and scholar of the Kabbalah, saw life as a web of connection and knew that everyone belonged to him, and that he belonged to everyone. He taught her that blessing one another is what fills our emptiness, heals our loneliness, and connects us more deeply to life. Life has given us many more blessings than we have allowed ourselves to receive. [This book] is about how we can recognize and receive our blessings and bless the life in others. Serving others heal us. Through our service we will discover our own wholeness – and the way to restore hidden wholeness in the world.” (quoted from back cover)
  • Nagler, Michael N., Is There No Other Way? The Search for a Nonviolent Future, 2001
    Reading Nagler has helped me recognize the glory of the lineage to which we (NVC) belong and our active role in evolving the history and evolutionary potential of nonviolence. What uneasiness I once harbored around the word “Nonviolent” in the title “Nonviolent Communication” was replaced by a swell of pride and excitement as I read this book. It contains accounts of many touching moments of nonviolence, such as Hutu and Tutsi schoolchildren refusing soldiers’ order to separate themselves by tribe, knowing full well what would come of such a separation. The book shows that nonviolence, far more than passive resistance, is active rehumanization. It strikes me that we who choose nonviolence are called to polish and hold ourselves as mirrors in such a way that anyone who approaches can behold their own humanity (or divinity) and thus come to recognize ours as well.
  • Nepo, Mark, The Exquisite Risk, Daring to Live an Authentic Life
    Thinking that you may not have heard of this poet and writer, I imagined you would enjoy one of many wonderful quotes from this book: “To listen is to continually give up all expectation and to give our attention, completely and freshly, to what is before us, not really knowing what we will hear or what that will mean. In the practice of our days, to listen is to lean in, softly, with a willingness to be changed by what we hear.”
  • Ross, Rupert, Returning to the Teachings, Exploring Aboriginal Justice
    This exploration is amazing in its synchronicity with NVC.
  • Scharmer, Otto, Theory U
  • Senge, Peter; Scharmer, Otto; Jawarski, Joseph; Flowers, Betty Sue, Presence
  • Wheatley, Margaret, Leadership and the New Science: Discovering Order in a Chaotic World, 2006.
  • Whyte, David, Crossing the Unknown Seat: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity
  • Wink, Walter, The Powers That Be
    Highly recommended for a deep understanding of the political consciousness at the heart of NVC.

 

Kathleen Macferran, Certified Trainer
Strength of Connection Center for Nonviolent Communication
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