International Intensive Training- Pacific NW US April 2015

Center For Nonviolent Communicationsm
Presents an 
INTERNATIONAL INTENSIVE TRAINING
USA – Pacific Northwest   April 3—12, 2015

The Proctor Farm

Program: This International Intensive Training (IIT) is a 9-day, Nonviolent Communication “immersion experience.” It is a residential workshop led by a team of experienced CNVC Certified Trainers.

The purpose of this IIT training is to offer people the opportunity to live the process of Nonviolent Communication in community over an extended period of time, in order to develop Nonviolent Communication knowledge, skills and consciousness. One exciting focus of this specific intensive training is exploring how individuals and teams can influence systems, cultures, communities and organizations, to become settings where all people can thrive.

Kathleen MacFerranTrainer: Kathleen Macferran,  Kathleen holds a vision for a peaceful, just and sustainable world. She has worked as a Certified Trainer for CNVC since 2003 and serves as an assessor with CNVC by supporting trainer candidates through a community-based certification process.  Offering communication and conflict resolution exploration is a passion of hers having worked with organizations and individuals including businesses, schools, colleges, community groups, faith-based communities, hospitals, families, prison inmates, and correctional and law enforcement employees. Kathleen is on the faculty of Seattle Central Community College where she offers courses in Conflict Management.

Kathleen enjoys exploring ways to engage with conflict in life-serving ways through the development of restorative systems. She serves as a lead trainer for the Freedom Project of Seattle, an affiliate organization of CNVC that strengthens community safety by supporting the transformation of prisoners into peacemakers. Kathleen offers trainings in concrete skills of nonviolence leading to reconciliation with ourselves, our loved ones and the community. For over 25 years Kathleen has explored ways to restore harmony to communities. Her experience includes two decades as a music conductor and leader of a nonprofit organization, and seven years as a public school teacher. Her website is www.StrengthofConnection.com. You can see Kathleen’s 15 minute Ted Talk here.

Karl SteyaertTrainer: Karl Steyaert

Karl is passionate about co-creating learning experiences and communities that contribute to peace, justice, and sustainability. With over 20 years of experience teaching and facilitating groups, he has helped catalyze learning in settings ranging from university classrooms to ecovillages and urban gardens. As a Certified Trainer in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Karl leads trainings in conflict resolution and communication across North America, Europe, and Asia. In addition, he facilitates Restorative Circles, a community-based approach to restorative justice grounded in NVC, and collaborates with Kathleen Macferran in supporting CNVC trainer candidates through the Trainer Candidate Community Program (TCCP). In addition to his work with NVC and conflict resolution, Karl is actively involved in co-creating communities that embody values such as sustainability, transformational learning, and consciousness. He is also dedicated to the practices of aikido (a nonviolent Japanese martial art), yoga, Buddhist meditation, permaculture, integral theory, and play. Karl’s website is www.findflow.org

Robert KrzisnikTrainer: Robert Krzisnik, MSc. Psych., has been working for 25 years (which of course cannot be true because that would mean he is already old) with individuals and groups as psychotherapist, trainer, team coach, complex meeting facilitator and conflict mediator in a wide spectrum of environments: from corporate to educational to personal and spiritual retreats. While all his work is infused with the spirit and the approach of Nonviolent Communication, he is also a dedicated practitioner of Art of Hosting practices, and an explorer of inter-cultural communication. In Nonviolent Communication he is most passionate about its spiritual aspects, as well as its use in conflict mediation (between individuals, within groups and between groups).

Since his early teenage years, Robert has been eagerly exploring the spiritual realms of Self and the Whole, as well as existential questions of life, through numerous inward journeys and travels around this wonderful world. He is also an eager practitioner (in beginning stages) of Contact Improvisation.

He lives in Slovenia, a small country in Europe, but his heart is still in a country he grew up in and which sadly does not exist anymore – Yugoslavia. His website: www.humus.si/en

Trainer: Kristen Masters was a diversity trainer working on social justice issues with runaways, battered women, and prisoners when she first found NVC. She was looking for ways to interrupt the downward spirals of violence that created these conditions. NVC became not only a tool but a lens through which she began to see the world in new ways.

The day that her friend (and CNVC trainer) Jean Morrison saved her marriage….well, Kristin’s giraffe ears perked up, and she was completely “sold”. NVC was invaluable as Kristin and her partner raised and homeschooled their daughter, who is now 15 years old. She can’t imagine parenting (or being in any relationship), without the support of a living practice of empathy and honesty, and a richly supportive community. Thankfully, she has this in abundance in her home in Santa Cruz, California, US.

Kristin lights up when she is applying NVC to social change, diversity issues, and leadership development. She draws heavily on Joanna Macy’s Work That Reconnects, applying this framework with an added richness of NVC principles. She is honored to be part of the team that holds the Leadership for Social Change retreat annually, focused on compassionate communication and critical awareness across lines of race, class and ethnicity.

She has embarked on extensive work with Robert Gonzales’ Living Compassion approaches, applying NVC and inquiry to inner work. She leads this in the full range of her own style, hoping to share the sense of empowerment and freedom that can come with an embodied self connection and conscious choicefulness. Kristin is dedicated to a participatory, experiential teaching style, that peppers in song and play, while also inviting space for a deep inner connection. Her long association with singing in Threshold Choir has created a personal soundtrack of self empathy songs. Music helps her stay connected to the love inside and between all of us.


Venue:

Ananda Center at Laurelwood is a 501 3c Educational Nonprofit Organization located on 225 acres 25 miles west of Portland, Oregon on the West Coast of the United States. Gardens, orchards, abundant wildlife, rolling hills, inspiring views, and the close proximity of Bald Peak all provide a setting conducive to expansive thinking, creativity, and a sense of harmony with life.  The campus, retreat and conference center provides facilities to groups looking for an uplifting, rural setting for exploration, growth and sharing. Ananda Center at Laurelwood is a place where divine joy, friendship, respect and growth thrive.

Within minutes of Laurelwood Valley two small college towns offer coffee shops and restaurants, while plentiful opportunities beyond the campus for hiking in natural areas and wildlife refuges, exploring the coastal beach towns of the Pacific Northwest are all just over an hour away.

For more details, including the all-vegetarian mostly organic meals, cozy and carpeted rooms, and large and open classrooms, click here:http://anandalaurelwood.org/stay/

Travel:

Expansion Hall: Most mapping or GPS programs will direct you to the administration building on Laurelwood Road. Guest Check-In and the Green Hill Cafe are in Harmony Hall. From Expansion Hall, continue west to Academy Way (on left past the gymnasium), turn left on Academy Way (before the Seventh Day Adventist Church and LACE Center), follow the road up the hill to the large 3-story building with a green roof. Follow signs to Guest Parking and Registration in the foyer of Harmony Hall.

For map and driving directions, click here:http://anandalaurelwood.org/about/directions/#sthash.bQCyR8I6.dpuf

By Plane

Fly into Portland International Airport. Ananda Center at Laurelwood is 36 miles from the Portland Airport, approximately an hour by car.

Transportation options from the airport:

  • Take MAX (light rail) to the Beaverton Transit Center (BTC) and arrange to be picked up there for $35 each way. The MAX Red Line terminates at the BTC and takes about an hour.  Ananda Laurelwood is a half-hour drive from there. MAX costs $2.50. The station is located in the airport. It runs every 15 minutes from 4:44 am to 11:49 pm.
  • Car rentals are available at the airport.
  • Groups can self-organize to arrange shared shuttle buses from the airport- more information upon registration

By Train

Amtrak does arrive in downtown Portland and is served by MAX (light rail) as well.

Participants are asked to wait until their registration in the IIT has been confirmed before booking travel reservations.


Fee: Total IIT Fees consists of a tuition fee of $2,340 plus accommodation fee – as outlined in the table below.

Early Bird Discount: Receive a $351 discount on tuition (15% off tuition) on payments received in full by 1/3/2014 (3 months prior to start of IIT). Tuition Fee Payable to CNVC under this option is $1,989.

Receive a $234 discount on full tuition (10% off tuition) on payments received in full by 2/3/2014 (2 months prior to start of IIT). Tuition Fee Payable to CNVC under this option is $2,106

Other discounts: If you are a registered certification candidate with CNVC or have attended a CNVC IIT before, we offer you a $351 discount on tuition (15% discount off tuition) (not to be combined with other discounts). If you are associated with a partner organization for this IIT, we offer a 5% tuition discount.

IIT Options and Fees (For a 9-Day Training):

Accommodation Type Accommodation Fee

Per Person

Enrollment Fee Total
Hotel-Style (Double) $900 $2,340 $3240
Camping TBD $2,340 TBD

Total IIT Fees consists of a tuition fee of $2,340 plus accommodation fee – as outlined in the table below – both payable to CNVC.

Three all-vegetarian, mostly organic meals per day included in accommodation fee. Shared participant kitchen and refrigerators available.

How to register:

  1. Click here to fill out the online IIT Application Form, please follow the instructions in the form to make payment:
  2. Applications sent before March 3, 2015 need to include full or partial payment, with a minimum of $100. The balance is due on March 3, 2015 . For applications sent on or after March 3, 2015, please include full tuition fees.
  3. CNVC usually acknowledges your application within 5 business days; please contact the IIT department if you did not receive an acknowledgment within this time
  4. If you would prefer a written application contact the IIT department and we will mail you one.

For questions please contact the IIT Department at 505-244-4041 or e-mail IIT

IIT Nick Name:

Pacific NW US IIT

Date:

Fri, 2015-04-03 18:00 – Sun, 2015-04-12 13:00

People
CNVC IIT Administrator:

Elin Searfoss

Kathleen presents TEDx talk this Saturday at TEDxRainier

ear photo“The Power of Listening” is the title of my TEDx talk this time. I will share about my journey from listening on the stage as a music conductor to listening in other places in my life (like schools, prisons and with family).

Come get inspired at the event, this Saturday, November 22nd! And look for the video to come out in the next month or so.

Check out my other TEDx talk from the Spring of 2014

Subject: Want to learn more about NVC? Here’s a great resource!

 

 

Dear friend,

 

I want to “toot a horn” for my dear friends at the NVC Academywho are in the process of updating and streamlining their online NVC Multimedia Library. I’m thrilled with the direction it’s heading in… And what a marvelous resource tool it is for any of us who’re studying Nonviolent Communication!

 

What makes it so useful? Lots of things! Here’s what appeals to me:

  • Contains the history of Nonviolent Communication, as founded by Marshall Rosenberg
  • Holds seminal works by most of our veteran NVC trainers, as well as the work of generations of trainers who’ve come afterwards
  • Resources from today’s NVC trainers are added regularly
  • Comprehensive NVC study guide you can delve into at your own speed
  • Enjoyable Staff Pick of the Month (I hear one of Miki Kashtan’s courses on Dialogue is being featured in 2015!)

 

Best of all for MY busy life, it’s open 24 hours a day and at my fingertips whenever I want it – and I don’t have go anywhere. If I want to start my day sitting in the morning sunshine with a cup of tea and Jim and Jori Manske, I can do that.

 

How sweet is that!

 

And yes, you’ll find a dozen or so of my courses in the Library, too, such as “Integrating NVC,” and “Stoking the Fires of Joy.” Just click here to see my collection!

 

You’ll also see works there by other trainers, who’s names I think you’ll find familiar. Trainers like sweet Robert Gonzales… John Kinyon… Arnina Kashtan… the endearing Kelly Bryson… Jeff Brown… of course the Manskes – and many more.

 

By the way, there’s aspecialpromotion this month for new Library members! If you decide to become a new member, be sure and use my promo code: MML75. Then when you join, you’ll receive $75 off any purchase at the Academy’s Marketplace, where you’ll find lots of other valuable NVC materials and resources.

 

I hope you’ll join…

 

Having a well-stocked library that’s readily available makes studying NVC such a pleasure. I don’t think there’s another resource quite like it anywhere else in the world.

 

Warmly,

 

Kathleen Macferran

CNVC Certified Trainer

Yoga and Compassionate Communication

I wish I was going on this trip to India to explore yoga and compassionate communication! For more informations: http://chiaraguerrieri.com/wordpress/2014/10/deeper-travel-india-2015-4-spots-remain/

Do I make a Difference? Shifting Anxiety to Choice

I woke up feeling vulnerable and anxious and decided to embrace and open to the sensations that were there. A flood of memories came back—years and years of teaching, conducting, parenting and the wondering if it had made any difference at all. “Are people’s lives any different? Are the horrors of the world diminished in any way by how I’ve lived?” I asked myself. “Was I so immersed in what I was doing morning to night thinking it was all so important and wasn’t able to see that all that effort didn’t mean much after all?”

 

Sinking into the sadness, some shame, disappointment, and hopelessness leads me below the turbulent waters where I notice the yearning to live a life that has meaning, that contributes to others, that makes a difference because I show up with love. I want to risk my significance based on a full-bodied sense of integrity and authenticity, not reacting to external expectations.

 

Allowing my body and heart to sink into that hunger, to give my full weight to it in the present moment, I notice another fear at the thought that some beloved people in my life may not understand or support my choices. A wave of sadness come over me thinking the consequences may be that I fall from grace or lose being held with positive regard by those I care about.

 

Breathing into the fear of loss, I relax into how much I care, how much I love others and want to deepen sacred connection. I feel relief knowing that I can choose to offer unconditional positive regard to others, no matter how they respond to me. I can create the qualities I cherish. Can I offer that acceptance and care to myself as I step more and more into my own authenticity? I’m willing to try.  Hearing my own “yes!” connects me with the flow of Life moving through me and the power of being connected to meaning and purpose. I don’t know how to answer the question “Do I make a difference?” but I do trust that living each moment with a willingness to risk my significance for the sake  of connection and love may help me live my way into the answer.

Still glowing from the prison TEDx Event

It has been a week since the TEDx event at Monroe Correctional Complex and I’m still glowing. I’m inspired by the many ways we have to support healing already and I’m hopeful that we can grow that support exponentially to embrace more of the prison system. One of the many highlights was a conversation between and inmate and officer in the green room as the three of us were waiting for our turn to speak. They were talking about inmate-staff relations. The officer talked about how he sees his job not just to contain, but to encourage. He talked about how he tried to get those in solitary to at least laugh once a day, because he wanted them to have that human connection that comes through humor. He told a story of how he was really hard on an inmate once, much more so than other inmates, and when that inmate was being released, he pulled him into an interview room and said he wanted to tell him why he had been so hard on him. The inmate’s crime was similar to the one that had killed one of the officer’s family members. The officer was encouraging the soon to be released inmate that he could do well one the outside, that he had a lot to give, that he could make it. The two of them ended up in tears and their relationship healed.

        

  

 

Deepening Friendship

“Friend, our closeness is this: that wherever you put your foot, feel me in the firmness under you.”- Rumi

 I read this and feel it in my body- toes spread out, sinking into the earth, resting in the solid sense of grounding. I’d love all my relationships to feel this way and I’d love all my friends to experience enough trust in me that they, too, have a visceral sense of being held. As I enjoy the relaxation in with my body, my mind starts to ask, “How do we get there? What behaviors and choices contribute to that firm foundation in my relationships?”

 So many moments flood my mind……….lazer-focused looks that hold me with rapt attention and presence, texts that let me know I’m being thought of, inquiries into small details of my day, agreements to support each other with as much care and vulnerability as is possible in any moment, and a willingness to face any tension that arises in the space between us because we both value the uniqueness and preciousness of our friendship. Beyond a quality of presence that is dynamic and alive, there’s a willingness to share openly about feelings and the things that we most care about.

 There’s another factor, too.  An agreement I have with myself to show up in every relationship with all my humanity, to practice self-connection to my essential nature, and to no longer withhold the expression of that essential nature. I’m tasting time and time again the thrill of showing up awake and alive even when it is uncomfortable.

 Friends, do you have any idea what a gift it is to me to have you as a firm foundation to walk upon?

Kathleen Macferran, Certified Trainer
Strength of Connection Center for Nonviolent Communication
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